It all seems so simple. You meet. You fall in love. You live happily ever after. But what happens after you’ve ridden off into the sunset? The truth, though few of us want to admit it, is that solid, stable relationships take work. You may not always be totally in sync with your partner – and that’s okay! It’s what you do about it that matters. This is where relationship books come in handy. They’re cheaper than a therapist and serve as a little DIY relationship help.
Luckily, there are a whole load of relationship books out there that offer hands-on tips and support. With that in mind, here are just five relationship books all women should read.
5 Relationship Books for Couples You Need to Check Out
1. How to Be Married by Jo Piazza
If you’re about to tie the knot, the title of this book is probably all too familiar. Perhaps it’s the quandary that’s resonated in your mind ever since he dropped to one knee and you said yes. Author Jo Piazza knows that feeling. At the age of 34, she found “the one,” and a mere three months later, the two got engaged.
Soon enough, she found herself wondering how, as a strong, independent woman, she could square being someone’s life partner. The thought pushed her to travel the world, seeking advice from married women in a variety of cultures. Luckily for us, she documented this journey in the enlightening How to Be Married. It really is a must-read.
2. Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
We’re supposed to believe when we meet the right person, our emotional barriers will naturally fall away and we will be completely open with them. That’s not always the case. It’s hard for some of us to be vulnerable. In Attached, authors Amir Levine and Rachel Heller explore the science of human attachment.
More than just a theoretical look at the confusing world of modern relationships, this book is a practical guide too. It offers a range of easy-to-follow action plans you can try for yourself. The idea is you can overcome any attachment issues you may have by understanding what makes you tick. Simple.
3. Our Q&A a Day: 3-Year Journal for 2 People
How often do you check in with your partner? Do you still ask them silly, funny, or quirky questions? And what about life’s big questions? Do you ask them about those too? When you’re in a long-term relationship, the mundanity of the day-to-day can often get in the way. The deep, meaningful conversations you once had may melt away.
That’s where the Q&A a Day book comes into play. As the title suggests, this is a couple’s journal which asks you both to answer just one question per day. From “What are 3 things you wish for?” to “What’s the most spontaneous thing you did this week?” the questions seek to spark new conversations. If you’re looking for a way to get closer, you might just have found it.
4. Getting Over Mad by Judy Ford
Arguing. Fighting. Bickering. Relationships peppered with these toxic things are doomed to failure. Or so we think. In the book Getting Over Mad, Judy Ford looks at ways in which we can not only deal with our anger but overcome it too. If you’ve ever spent an evening locked in a never-ending “debate” with your partner, this is the book for you.
While it covers all manner of relationships, this guide is particularly helpful for people who are struggling with anger issues in their romantic relationship. It offers practical, simple advice that can help you quit fighting and start loving again. This could be just the thing to stop your relationship from fizzling out for all the wrong reasons.
5. The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Clear communication is the foundation of any relationship. If it feels as though you and your significant other speak two different languages, you might be onto something. This #1 New York Times bestseller looks at the ways in which modern couples communicate and examines the differences each of us have.
Aside from the obvious communication element to the book, it’s also jam-packed with advice on how to keep things fresh with your partner. The guide was first published way back in 1995 but has recently been updated. With rave reviews, it’s worth a shot!
What relationship books have you read? Let us know in the comments below!