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Trenton Reed is a writer and editor with a background in creative. An accomplished content marketer, copywriter, and journalist, he currently lives in Denver, Colorado.

Guy Talk: What He’s Actually Saying

Whether you’ve been talking to a guy for two weeks, or have been happily together for twenty years, one of the most common struggles in any relationship is communication. As men, we’ve developed a reputation for ourselves—and perhaps rightfully so. It’s not that we’re uncommunicative. It’s just that, sometimes, we aren’t the best at articulating ourselves. And often, we like to assume that a simple yes or no, or cryptic text message solves the problem (it doesn’t). Ladies, no need to freak out. We’re not that hard to understand. To help, below we’ll decode some of our common sayings (AKA guy talk).

 

What he’s saying:  “I’m sorry.”

What he’s actually saying: “I’m sick of arguing, can we have make-up sex now?”

Commonly heard after a fight or argument, men often use this seemingly honest statement to cover up what we really mean. Yeah, we’re probably sorry, but we’re also ready to go.

What he’s saying: “I’m good.”

What he’s actually saying: “I like the things the way they are right this second and I’m literally not looking to add or change anything.”

When we say we’re good, it’s best to believe us. Sure, it’s a pithy reply. But it’s an honest one.

What he’s saying: “I promise.”

What he’s actually saying: “I kind of promise.”

If we consistently promise to do things and don’t show up or call, use your best judgment and put stock in our actions. Not all men are the same. And when real men make promises, we follow through with them.
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What he’s saying: “You’re not fat.”

What he’s actually saying: “Seriously, you’re not fat.”

Commonly uttered when you’re naked, we generally mean it. You’re seriously not fat. And you going on and on about body issues is getting tedious.

What he’s saying: “I’m not ready for a relationship right now.”

What he’s actually saying:” I’m not interested in a relationship with you.”

If we’re afraid of committing, it’s probably not circumstantial. It’s probably you. However, if you’d like to become friends with benefits, let us know!
Married couple having an argument sitting up n their bed facing off in opposite directions as they ignore one another

What he’s saying: “I’ll call you.”

What he’s actually saying: “I won’t call you…but I don’t know how to say it nicely.”

Usually heard at the end of a date, this phrase is our go-to when we don’t know what else to say. What we really mean is that we don’t ever want to see you again, but we’re not sure how to put it bluntly.
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What he’s saying: “She’s just a friend.”

What he’s actually saying: “I’d like her to be more than a friend but I also don’t want to cheat on you.”

Oh baby you, you got what I need. And I swear she’s just a friend…
man and woman working

What he’s saying: “You look better without makeup.”

What he’s actually saying: “Hurry up, I’m damn hungry.”

Commonly heard before a dinner date, he’s probably being honest. However, he’s also hangry and could care less what you put on your face.

What he’s saying: “It’s a boys night.”

What he’s actually saying: “I just need a night to drink beers and talk about stuff that bores the hell out of you.”

Seriously, the game is on and I’m in the mood to pound beers and get in touch with my primal side. I may look at other girls, but I’m not going to cheat.

What he’s saying: “I’m busy.”

What he’s actually saying: “I have plenty of time…I’d just rather not spend it with you.”

Unfortunately, we’ve decided to not put you on the list of important things to make time for. There are 24 hours in a day—there’s no way we’re busy every single one of them.

What he’s saying: “Let’s try something different.”

What he’s actually saying: “I’m starting to get bored.”

We mean it. Let’s try something new, whether it’s in the bedroom or in the kitchen. Keeping things fresh and exciting isn’t too much to ask, is it?
Sexy man holding handcuffs, sit on sofa, black and white, bdsm

What he’s saying: “I like chilling at my place.”

What he’s actually saying: “I’m really only interested in seeing you behind closed doors.”

AKA I’m really just into having sex at the moment. Take it with a grain of salt.
Top view of sexy muscular young man looking at camera with sensual smile while lying in bed

What he’s saying: “I need more space.”

What he’s actually saying: “I need some time alone to think things over.”

We’ve probably just had a fight. And I probably need some time to save my ass.

Denver: The Modern Mile High City

Denver isn’t exactly the most conveniently located town. Far from any ocean, one must intentionally venture across the plains or deserts to get into the foothills of the Rocky Mountains. For years, the Queen City of the Plains was written off as a forgotten cow town by flatlanders—when in reality, it was one of the west’s best-kept secrets.

These days, the secret is out. The city is rapidly evolving into a cultural breeding ground for chefs, entrepreneurs, artisans, and musicians. And thanks to an evolving food and beverage landscape, a flourishing marijuana industry, and a booming tech and startup scene, Denver is becoming a destination for those pursuing their own version of the post-modern American Western dream.

Chances are you know somebody who’s moved here in the past year or so. To help plan your trip to visit them, here’s your itinerary.

Workout

Denver loves its green…spaces, that is. In fact, the City and County of Denver maintain more than 200 city parks, 100 miles of trails, and 11 dog parks. That’s over 5,000 acres of urban parkland to explore. For starters, tie up your running shoes and head to Cheesman Park, just southeast of downtown. The quick 1.5-mile jog on the tree-lined paths will remind you you’re 5,280 feet above sea level, but at least the park’s dirt-lined perimeter is easy on the knees.

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Columns on the Pavilion in Cheesman Park

Be sure to stop at the Cheesman Pavilion—located on the park’s eastern border, just across from the Denver Botanic Gardens—and soak in the impressive westward views of the snowcapped Rockies.

Breakfast

Perennial favorite Snooze, an A.M. Eatery—a homegrown chain with outposts in California and Arizona—is just as great as people say it is. Try the breakfast pot pie, made with rosemary sausage gravy atop a flaky puff pastry, along with the Bangkok Bloody Mary, sure to waken your taste buds with ingredients like Sriracha and fish sauce, among others.

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Breakfast Pot Pie and Bangkok Bloody Mary | Image courtesy of Snooze, an A.M. Eatery

If you want to pretend you’re a local, hit up newcomer Onefold, located in the Uptown neighborhood. The cozy, farmhouse-inspired haunt serves up a simple, yet surprisingly diverse menu that includes bacon fried rice (it’s just as good as it sounds), congee (a traditional Chinese savory rice porridge) with duck confit, and a massive breakfast burrito that includes green chili, duckfat fried potatoes, and your choice of local bacon or house-made sausage.

Be warned: The place is tiny. So if you’re put on the waiting list, walk a few blocks southwest to the Denver Bicycle Café for a cup of local coffee. The relaxed, friendly spot includes an in-house bike shop (hence the name), and a completely Colorado-sourced espresso and draft beer selection.

Denver Bicycle Cafe
Image courtesy of Denver Bicycle Cafe

See

Denver has a formidable art scene—and one that is growing exponentially as more and more transplants migrate to the increasingly progressive town. The Denver Art Museum, which opened the geometric, Daniel Libeskind-designed Frederic C. Hamilton Building in 2006, has established itself as the city’s go-to institution. One of the biggest museums between the Pacific coast and Chicago, the DAM boasts an impressive collection of American Indian and Western art, in addition to international displays, and rotating traveling exhibits.

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The titanium-clad exterior of the Denver Art Museum’s Hamilton Building | Photo by Kevin Hester | Courtesy of the Denver Art Museum

Just around the corner is the small but impressively comprehensive Clyfford Still Museum, which celebrates the life of the celebrated abstract expressionist painter.

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Photo by Matt Pangman

If you have time, and crave a more homegrown art experience, head a few blocks southwest to the Art District on Santa Fe, one of the city’s celebrated cultural gems. Vibrant storefronts, colorfully painted alleyways, and unique street art populate this micro-hood. Check out the Museo de las Americas—which pays homage to the arts and culture of Latin America—and choose from an assortment of contemporary galleries such as Michael Warren Contemporary, which celebrate local artists. 

Lunch

For a true Denver experience, head just outside the city to South Federal Boulevard. A long-time fixture for truly authentic cuisine, the thoroughfare contains some of Denver’s best hole-in-the-wall, family-run spots. In the mood for Vietnamese cuisine? Check out either Pho Duy for a wonderfully warming bowl of pho or Ba Le Sandwich for an outstanding (and super cheap) banh mi. How about authentic Chinese? Star Kitchen is a fixture for weekend dim sum as well as real deal Cantonese dishes. And in a city known for its Mexican cuisine, Tarasco’s New Latino Cuisine shines with its award-winning dishes, which run the gamut from mole to posole.

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Image via Stocksnap under license CC0

You may have to look extra hard to find some of these hidden gems, but it’s well worth the time. Trust us.

Shop

 Over the past few years, South Broadway has evolved into one of the Mile High City’s premier shopping destinations. And we can’t think of a better place to showcase Denver’s burgeoning artisan scene. Starting at the corner of Ellsworth and Broadway, hit up the legendary punk enclave Mutiny Information Café for secondhand books, comics, and vinyl. Walk three doors south to Ironwood, where succulents, terrariums, local art, and other oddities artfully clutter this distinct shop. Just blocks apart, local ski/surf lifestyle brand Steadbrook and Fancy Tiger—a boutique that carries both Colorado and international brands—prove that aesthetics do matter in Denver. 

Dinner

If you haven’t noticed already, Denver is in the midst of a cultural explosion—and perhaps no single building is a better representation than the newly revamped Union Station. The transportation hub, which was established in 1881, recently unveiled its $54 million renovations, and has since served as the crown jewel of downtown Denver. Make sure to come early to tour the station’s new digs and grab a drink at the opulent Terminal Bar, located in the Great Hall. Once your reservation is ready (you made one, right?), head next door to Mercantile Dining & Provision for acclaimed chef Alex Seidel’s take on elevated, seasonally-inspired comfort food.

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Image courtesy of Mercantile Dining and Provision | Photo: McCall Burau

Between Union Station’s elaborate, lavish rebuild, and Mercantile’s expansive, open dining room—which doubles as an in-house, artisanal market—it becomes clear that Denver has never been this classy.

Imbibe

With an exorbitant amount of breweries in the greater metro area, it’s no secret that Denver is a beer town. And currently, nowhere in Denver is more representative of craft beer (or general redevelopment) than the River North Art District.

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Photo by Matt Pangman

While you could easily start your tour on Larimer and its surrounding streets (and sample damn fine brews from Our Mutual Friend, Ratio Beerworks, Epic Brewing Company, and Beryl’s Beer Co.) save some semblance of sobriety and travel a few blocks north to Brighton Boulevard. Start your night at newcomer Mockery Brewing to try some of Denver’s most unique brews.

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Image courtesy of Mockery Brewing

Next, walk a few blocks to the legendary Great Divide Brewing Company’s new 65,000 square-foot facility and sample their flagship Yeti Imperial Stout. End your night in the old 1880s building directly across the street at The Source, a hopping artisan food market that features 13 vendors including (you guessed it) a brewery in Crooked Stave.

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Yeti Imperial Stout | Image courtesy of Great Divide Brewing Company

Best Western Mountain Town Summer Festivals

Out here in the west, we do things a little differently. And we’re okay with it. Sure, you’ve got your Lollapalooza and your Bonnaroo on the east coast, but we’ve got plenty of music—and, not to mention, mountains, rivers, deserts, and some of the most breathtaking landscapes in the country.

Whether you’re turned off by the fashion show that has become Coachella, or are more into festivals that include camping, hiking, and other outdoor adventures, there’s something for everyone out here in the Rocky Mountain region. From celebrating whitewater rafting and community in central Colorado to jamming out to the nation’s best bluegrass acts at the base of a ski resort in Wyoming, consider some of the best mountain town summer festivals.

Music on the Mesa

Taos, NM

Located across from the Taos Regional Aiport, between sagebrush and the Rio Grande on its namesake mesa, is Taos Mesa Brewing, HQ for the second annual Music on the Mesa. Resembling the funky, eco-inspired architecture of neighboring funky earthships, and featuring two outdoor stages, the brewery itself is a spectacle—and the beer brewed on site and food ain’t so bad either.

Taos Mesa Brewing
Taos Mesa Brewing, from Sarowen on Flickr (CC BY-NC-ND 2.0)

Due to its rather isolated location, and its inevitable cosmic vibes, the festival is admittedly going to be out there­. However, those looking for a truly unique location will be more than impressed with the desert sunsets over the Sangre de Cristo mountain range.

 

Bonanza Campout

River’s Edge, Heber, Utah

Nestled near the old mining town of Park City, River’s Edge is a secluded area perfect for the brand-new Bonanza experience. The weekend will merge live music and local art installations with local breweries and eateries.

Telluride Bluegrass Festival

Telluride, CO

One of the nation’s premier bluegrass experiences, Telluride Bluegrass Festival is an unforgettable four days of music, mountains, and magic. Nestled in in the historic mountain town in southwest Colorado, the Telluride Bluegrass has evolved into one of the crown jewels of all summer festivals.

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2013 Telluride Bluegrass Festival, from Doug Anderson on Flickr (CC BY 2.0)

Need proof? Every June, droves of festivalgoers make the annual pilgrimage to the isolated but breathtaking box canyon.

 

FIBArk

Salida, CO

River rats unite! FIBArk is the nation’s oldest whitewater festival. Located at the base of the Rockies and on the banks of the mighty Arkansas River in the charming mountain town of Salida, the unique festival features all sorts of river and land events. Above all, the family-friendly event highlights the tight-knit Coloradan community.

A team member celebrates after grabbing a prize bag in the Hooligan Race at the 2012 FIBArk Whitewater Festival.
A team member celebrates after grabbing a prize bag in the Hooligan Race at the 2012 FIBArk Whitewater Festival, from Josh Montague on Flickr (CC BY 2.0)

Not sure what to expect? Competitions such as the Downriver Race—the longest, oldest, and perhaps toughest whitewater race in the country—and Freestyle Kayak competition test participants’ athleticism and fearlessness. Events such as the Raft Rodeo, which hands out awards “for nothing but silly moves,” and the Hooligan Race, open to anything that floats and is not a boat, highlights ingenuity and innovation with a healthy smattering of absurdity.

 

International Climber’s Festival

Lander, WY

A celebration of the climbing lifestyle, the International Climber’s Festival draws dirtbags (we use that term lovingly, of course) from all across the world for a weekend of climbing clinics and competitions, art, food, music, and beer. Never been to a climbing-specific event and unsure what to expect? Climbers of all abilities can find something, from classes on gear and strength training to more intensive bouldering and lead climbing clinics.

To keep festival-goers busy between getting vertical, the dog-friendly festival features morning yoga, trail runs, live music, and happy hours. The weekend also features talks, panel discussions, and some of the climbing community’s well-known athletes.

 

Targhee Fest and Grand Targhee Bluegrass Festival

Alta, WY

Anyone who has ever laid eyes on the imposing, jagged Teton mountain range knows that the place has a magical draw to it. And for the past several decades, Grand Targhee Resort has been giving music lovers two reasons to revisit the northwestern corner of Wyoming: for both Grand Targhee Bluegrass Festival and Targhee Fest. Drawing on the spirit of music, mountain-town charm, and sustainability, these festivals bring together food, music, and outdoor culture for two separate occasions.

The Grand Targhee Blue Grass Festival is considered the grand daddy of bluegrass festivals in the Northern Rockies. No matter your musical preference, the festivals are one of the prime escapes to hang out in the shadows of the Tetons. (Video is from the 28th Annual Targhee Bluegrass Festival in 2015)

 

Divide Music Festival

Winter Park, CO

Located a short drive from Denver in the ski town of Winter Park, Divide Music Festival uses the splendor of the Continental Divide as a background and highlights some huge national acts. The outdoor festival features some of Colorado’s best craft beers, local food selections and artisans and promises to be one hell of a party.

Reserve a camp spot, and be sure to pack up your mountain bike and hiking shoes—thanks to flowing rivers, scalable mountain peaks, and lush valleys, Winter Park is a veritable summer playground.

 

Vertex Festival

Buena Vista, CO

This festival aims to create “a modern-day frontier where anything is possible.” Surrounded by snow-capped 14,000-foot mountains at the foot of the Continental Divide on a sprawling ranch, Vertex definitely has prime real estate. However, its eclectic array of hip-hop, DJs, and rock bands will convince music fans that the festival boasts more than a pretty location.

Above all, community-minded Vertex plans to showcase the best of Colorado, including music, art, and outdoor adventures.

Taos, New Mexico: Immerse Yourself in the Mystic Mountain Town

The immensity of the Rio Grande Gorge, the sprawling basalt flows of the Taos Plateau volcanic field, the looming, jagged peaks of the Sangre De Cristo mountain range: Taos, New Mexico is hallowed ground. Boasting an elevation of nearly 7,000 feet, the semi-arid, high-mountain desert is a stunning synthesis of geography.

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The area is also marked by complex history. The modernized city of Taos is no more than a mile south of Taos Pueblo, an ancient area belonging to the Tiwa-speaking Native American tribe of Puebloan people. Although Taos has been occupied by the Pueblo for almost a millennium, the area was first “discovered” in 1540 and established as Don Fernando de Taos following Spanish conquest in 1615. For three subsequent centuries, the city was the center of bloody conflict, as the land was fortified by Spain, Mexico, and finally, the United States.

Taos Pueblo Sign at entrance to Taos Pueblo on April 30, 2011 in Taos, New Mexico. UNESCO World Heritage Site has been continuously inhabited for over 1000 years.
Taos Pueblo Sign at entrance to Taos Pueblo on April 30, 2011 in Taos, New Mexico. UNESCO World Heritage Site has been continuously inhabited for over 1000 years.

Shortly after New Mexico was admitted to the U.S. as its 47th state in 1912, artists flocked to Taos to paint local scenes of Native Americans and its inspiring landscape. While the days of Georgia O’Keefe are now numbered, Taos is still a haven for artists, outdoor enthusiasts, and like-minded free spirits.

Looking for a southwestern escape? Immerse yourself in the mystic mountain town with these insider tips.

Workout

No matter the time of year, Taos offers up outdoor activities for any predilection. And at the heart of the town’s outdoor scene is Taos Ski Valley, the ideal destination for year-round recreation.

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Summer Scenic Lift Ride, opening on June 24th, 2016 at Taos Ski Valley | Image courtesy of Taos Ski Valley

Visiting in the winter? You’d be remiss to not hit the slopes. Featuring a one-to-one ratio of expert to beginner terrain, the ski resort offers some of the best powder in the Rockies. If you’re looking for a challenge, the Kachina lift, constructed in 2014, reaches 12,481 feet, the highest elevation of any triple chair in North America.

Come summertime, the slopes bloom into a verdant valley, offering tourists activities as diverse as mountain biking, full moon hikes, and scenic chair rides. And because the village of Taos Ski Valley is located within the Carson National Forest, with the Wheeler Peak Wilderness area bordering much of the south, hikers and backpackers can find plenty of trails to meander down.

Breakfast

Doubling as a bakery and restaurant, Michael’s Kitchen has been serving up classic New Mexican breakfast and lunch food since 1974. The place is consistently busy, but always laid back and friendly. Boasting an eclectic menu, diners can opt for ubiquitous diner options such as pancakes and steak and eggs or New Mexican classics such as Huevos Rancheros and a breakfast enchilada.

If you have a sweet tooth, order a pastry or two—we recommend the apple fritters and éclairs.

See

As previously discussed, Taos is steeped in rich art history. The town features innumerable art galleries, many of which are located on the Taos Plaza, the centrally located main strip within the downtown historic district. Planning a visit? Check the art calendar for more information on events, exhibits, and workshops.

Detail of a mural of George Chacon of a typical building in the historic center of the town of Taos in New Mexico
Detail of a mural of George Chacon of a typical building in the historic center of the town of Taos in New Mexico Marco Bicci / Shutterstock.com

In addition to more traditional artistic endeavors, Taos still retains an outsider undercurrent. And perhaps nothing quite epitomizes the weird and wonderful better than the Earthship structures strewn throughout the desert on the outskirts of town. Conceptualized by Michael Reynolds in the 1970s, these passive solar homes promote radically sustainable living and emphasize an off-the-grid lifestyle that minimizes reliance on public utilities and fossil fuels. Often horseshoe-shaped and constructed with reclaimed materials such as tires, aluminum cans, and glass bottles, the Earthships are simultaneously humble and otherworldly.

For those looking to further their knowledge, the Earthship Biotecture Vistor’s Center is located northwest of Taos in the town of El Prado and offers a self-guided tour through a fully-functioning Earthship.

Lunch

Whereas many Taos dining staples embrace their New Mexican roots, Gutiz opts for a Latin-French hybrid. And trust us, this is an entirely good decision. Staples, including the Green-Chile-Sausage Bowl—a hearty helping of sliced sausage, three beans, onions, tomatoes, and a healthy dousing of green chile sauce—epitomize the Land of Enchantment’s love of hatch chiles. For those looking to embrace their inner Francophile, selections such as the Brie Omelet and Parisian Crepe are wonderful riffs on French classics.

And believe what you’ve heard. The chocolate truffles are damn near perfect.

Relax

For a truly New Mexican experience, be sure to hit up one of the many hot springs that populate the area—whether at a lavish, spa-like resort or a locals-only secret spot. For the full experience, be sure to hit up Ojo Caliente, located about 40 miles west of town. Boasting everything from immersive, therapeutic massage and bodywork packages, to mud pools and hot springs, the mineral spring resort and spa is as relaxing and lavish as it gets.

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Iron Pool at Ojo Caliente Spa in Taos | Image courtesy of Ojo Caliente Mineral Springs Resort and Spa

For a more rustic (and dare we say, more authentic?) experience, ask a local for their favorite soaking spot. We won’t give any secrets away, but there are several hotspots located just outside of town along the Rio Grande. While you may not get pampered by a certified masseuse, the springs are a great place to enjoy a canned beer while resting your bones after a long ski or hike.

Dinner

Still not convinced that Taos is a foodie town? Wait until the dinner hour strikes. While the town boasts a formidable dining scene that includes everything from down-home New Mexican cooking to refined global fare, we’re partial to the Love Apple, located on Paseo Del Pueblo Norte, just outside the plaza. Housed in a former Catholic church built in the 1800s, the Love Apple is a diminutive, local gem that’s as charming as it is romantic.

Love Apple - Beautiful Setting & Fine Dining
‘Love Apple – Beautiful Setting & Fine Dining’ from Jim Kimmons on Flickr (CC BY-NC 2.0)

Once you get over the ambiance (and it’ll take time, trust us), it’s time to revel in the goodness of the restaurant’s excellent wine list and kitchen’s local, organic home cooking. Specializing in New Mexican traditions with a French-inspired twist, the menu rotates seasonally, so it’s worth conversing with your waiter about local sourcing and availability and current specials.

Imbibe

We’ve already blogged about the cosmic vibes of Taos Mesa Brewing (and a certain corresponding music festival)—so you know we’re partial to the brewery. Located a bit off the beaten path, in the middle of the sprawling desert, the unique location really can’t be beat (plus, it boasts the “best mountain-view sunsets,” those of which we can’t really debate). Embodying the aforementioned aesthetics and philosophies of surrounding Earthships—including reclaimed materials and eco-aware intentions such as solar power and water catchment techniques—the structure itself ain’t so bad, either.

Taos Mesa Brewing
Taos Mesa Brewing, from Sarowen on Flickr (CC BY-NC-ND 2.0)

Grab a brew (at any given time, there are nine to 12 in-house variations) and a patio seat and drink in the view.

11 Out-of-the-Box First Date Ideas 

When did first dates become an endless whirlwind of uninspired drinks and dinner? While we love wining and dining as much as the next awkward couple, there have to be alternatives…right?

Remember, dating is intended to be enjoyable. It shouldn’t force you into uncomfortable or unhealthy situations. And above all, you shouldn’t be inevitably bored with the same old song and dance.

Get ready to say goodbye to the small talk (and bad first dates) and get out of your comfort zone with these alternative date ideas.

Get Outside

1) Take in an outdoor movie. 

Remember the summer of ’55 back home in the Midwest when you took your high school sweetheart to the drive-in out in the cornfields and got your first kiss? Yeah, probably not. But you can still recreate the days of yore by taking your date to an outdoor movie—drive-in or otherwise.

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Check your local media outlets for outdoor events. Even if you’re in the heart of a major metropolis, we’re sure there’s an outdoor summer film series somewhere. Grab some snacks and a bottle of wine, and maybe you’ll get that first kiss you always wanted.

2) Hop on two wheels.

Going au naturel can be a thrill—and we’re not talking about taking a walk in the nude (unless you’re feeling especially bold). Rather, consider taking your workout outside. Looking for a fresh take on the city you’ve lived in for years? Nothing provides an alternative perspective than the two wheels of a bicycle.

Couple in love sitted togheter on a bench with bikes beside

Meet at your favorite coffee shop for a quick pick-me-up of caffeine, strap on your helmets, and take a casual ride through a park. Because nothing is sexier than getting the endorphins pumping.

3) Get vertical.

Couples that belay together, stay together…or something like that. But seriously, getting outdoors to a rock wall (indoor climbing gyms count, too!) is an unparalleled experience that immediately requires you to place at least some semblance of trust in your date. Or the rock wall instructor if you’re not willing to make that jump.

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Image via Pixabay under license CC0

4) Take them out to the ballgame—on the cheap.

Sure, the major leagues are great and all, but tickets can be steep. And while we can only assume that your city has a minor league team or some sorts, we are entirely confident that you’ll be saving a hell of a lot of money. Plus, minor league games are often filled with odd traditions and hilarious mascots—all the better for a first date.

minor league baseball from the stands
“Fanning out”, from MRHSfan on Flickr (CC BY-NC-ND 2.0)

Locate your local minor league team and enjoy the single digit price tags. Plus, the money you save can be used towards beer and hotdogs.

5) Live like a tourist.

No matter how long you’ve been in a city, we can bet there’s a museum or other oddity you haven’t seen (or, at least haven’t seen in years). Meet up at your favorite coffee shop to make a list of historic landmarks—and use your first date as a way to cross things off your bucket list. Visiting tourist traps may not be inherently sexy, but the activity can be entirely fun and hilarious, especially if you photobomb the throngs of tourists with selfie sticks.

couple in san francisco chinatown

Finish off your date with a famous bar or restaurant (no matter how cringe-worthy) for the true tourist experience.

6) Bring your A-game.

Embrace your inner-child and buy a round of tickets to your city’s best outdoor amusement offering. Whether it’s an old penny arcade, fair, or boardwalk, engaging in some friendly competition is a great way to bond with your date. The endorphins will all but kill the awkward conversation. Plus, it’s a perfect excuse to indulge in funnel cake.

midway game carnival
Image via Pixabay under license CC0

To make things fun, present a best-of-five situation to your date. Winner is responsible for the oversized stuffed bear.

Stay Indoors

7) Go bowling.

Smoky rooms, greasy food, and cheap beer. While bowling may conjure up memories of your drunk uncle, there’s still something about bowling that still makes it a timeless activity. Rather than break the ice over fancy cocktails, put on a pair of clown shoes, order a pitcher of beer and a tray of nachos, and try your damndest to bowl a turkey.

pretty girl bowling

Not a competitive bowler? Bumpers can help with that.

8) See the stars.

While stargazing outdoors is a certified lame first date classic, visiting a planetarium or observatory can be pretty fun, albeit a little geeky. And, depending on your date, viewing the moon through a telescope can actually be pretty romantic. Plus, with the help of professionals (and the luck of a clear night’s sky), you can rest assured that the view of the cosmos will be unobstructed.

griffith observatory los angeles
Image via Pixabay under license CC0

9) Bar hop—in style.

Okay, so maybe you are more of a traditionalist and you’re sold on dinner and drinks. But who says you have to stay put in one place? Long, drawn-out dinner dates can feel so tedious and stuffy. So to avoid the monotony, have a three-course dinner…at different places.

Couples Dancing And Drinking At Evening Party

Dying to impress your date with the hottest tapas place in town? Grab a sharable plate or two and some wine. Curious about the new Izakaya-style joint? Order two drinks and an entrée to share. To cap off the night, pick up a pint to go at your favorite ice cream parlor and enjoy al fresco.

10) Enjoy breakfast for dinner.

Whether you’re a pancakes and French toast fan, or have a proclivity for the simple joys of bacon and eggs, there’s something inherently comforting about ordering breakfast from a good, old-fashioned diner. And a trip to your favorite greasy spoon can make for a hell of a first date.

mel's diner
Image via Stocknap under license CC0

Modest, unassuming, with just the perfect helping of quirk, diners provide a relaxed tone that can inspire hours of conversation. Just make sure the coffee is a-flowin’.

11) Take a cooking class.

 Even if you’re a master home chef, inviting a stranger to your house for a first date is a bit of an awkward proposition. Still in the mood to impress? Opt for a cooking class instead. We can almost guarantee that you’ll be surprised at the variety of classes your city has to offer. And sites like LivingSocial and Groupon constantly have deals for affordable packages—no matter you budget or taste bud.

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“Cooking Classes 161”, from Parker Knight on Flickr (CC BY 2.0)

Not only do you and your date get to enjoy a fancy meal, you get to prepare it yourself. And who knows? Maybe you’ll end the night with some dessert.

5 Cocktails That Will Make You Love Gin

Oh, gin. You complex, exotic, yet entirely misunderstood spirit. Gin has been the foundation of the spirit world before cocktails were fashionable. As a base, gin can be mixed with just about anything—bitters, sweeteners, citrus, you name it—as its distinct, juniper flavors mingle with, and even enhance, nearly every flavor profile you throw at it.

For the uninitiated, however, gin can be an overwhelming, daunting spirit that’s often overshadowed by other approach spirits such as vodka and tequila. And while a recent renaissance in classic cocktails has rendered a more educated drinking public, gin cocktails are still often overlooked.

To introduce you to this botanical spirit, consider five classic cocktails that will undoubtedly make you reconsider gin.

Last Word

Need an introduction to gin-based libations? The Last Word is the ideal candidate. Boasting incredible depth and complexity, this sweet and sharp drink is attractive and downright drinkable—despite its potency.

Equal parts gin, green Chartreuse, maraschino liqueur, and fresh lime juice, this prohibition-era cocktail feels decidedly modern. Originally developed at the Detroit Athletic Club in the 1920s, the drink fell out of style sometime around World Ward II, but has enjoyed renewed popularity thanks to Murray Stenson, who revived the cocktail at Seattle’s Zig Zag Café.

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The Last Word at Bar Fausto | Photo: Nicole Duda

Served straight up and boasting an enticing pale green color—partially due to the Chartreuse—the wonderfully balanced cocktail is a little sour, a little sweet, and a little pungent. In other words, it’s the perfect sipper, no matter the season or your mood.

 

INGREDIENTS:

  • 34 gin
  • 34 green Chartreuse
  • 34 maraschino liqueur
  • 34 fresh lime juice
  • Twist of lime for garnish

 

French 75

Never heard of the inimitable French 75? This just may be the cocktail you’ve missed your whole life. And you wouldn’t be in bad company, either. The drink was a favorite of the Lost Generation. 

The French 75, or simply Soixante Quinze (75) in French, was first created in 1915 at New York Bar in Paris by Harry MacElhone. Named after the 75-millimeter M1897, a vicious but compact gun favored by the French field artillery in World War I, the potent cocktail was said to resemble the feeling of being shelled with the gun when consumed.

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French 75 at Bar Fausto | Photo: Nicole Duda

Appropriately so, this little drink packs a hell of a punch. Featuring a sturdy base of gin, a smattering of sugar and lemon, and a healthy top-off of bubbly, you’ll be surprised how well the French 75 hides its liquor. Refreshing and intoxicating, the cocktail is a classic that every bartender should know and every drinker should admire.

 

INGREDIENTS:

  • .5 oz Lemon juice
  • 1 tsp Sugar
  • 2 oz London dry gin or cognac
  • Champagne, chilled
  • Glass: Collins

 

Ramos Gin Fizz

If we want to get technical, fizzes encompass a number of sour-based cocktails that incorporate spirits, club soda, and lemon juice. And rightfully so, gin was the earliest spirit used in a fizz. Light, drinkable, and approachable, the first printed reference to “fizz” was in the 1887 edition of Jerry Thomas’ Bartender’s Guide, which included six variations. 

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Ramos Gin Fizz at Union Lodge No. 1 | Photo: Kyle Cooper

One of the most iconic interpretations, the Ramos gin fizz, was born in 1888. As legend has it, bartender Henry C. Ramos of the Imperial Cabinent Saloon on Gravier Street in New Orleans called for a 12-minute mixing time, requiring the bar to staff as many as 32 employees during the carnival of 1915 just to shake the drink.

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Gin Fizz at Union Lodge No. 1 | Photo: Kyle Cooper

You probably won’t get the marathon shaking time these days, but the Ramos gin fizz is still a balanced silky spectacle, thanks to its egg white and cream base, and citrus and aromatic notes, courtesy of lemon, lime, and orange flower water.

 

INGREDIENTS:

  • 1 1/2 oz. gin
  • 1 Tbsp. simple syrup
  • 1/2 oz. fresh lemon juice
  • 1/2 oz. fresh lime juice
  • 1 fresh egg white
  • 1 oz. heavy cream
  • 3 drops orange flower water
  • 1 oz. club soda, chilled
  • Glass: highball

 

Martinez

Classic? The Martinez goes beyond that. It’s a precursor of many a classic cocktail. In fact, it’s often considered the evolutionary missing link between the Manhattan and the Martini. Booze-forward and complex, the modern Martinez drinks like a Manhattan, but forgoes the oaky, vanilla notes of whiskey for the aromatics of gin.

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The Martinez at Bar Fausto | Photo: Nicole Duda

Ever the unequivocal black sheep of the cocktail world, the Martinez has a hazy past. First mentioned in O.H. Byron’s seminal The Modern Bartender in 1884, the original drink is vaguely described as “same as Manhattan, only you substitute the gin for whisky.” Byron continues with two versions of the Manhattan—both a dry and sweet variation—and no further suggestion of the Martinez. To further complicate matters, since the 1880s, no two recipes have agreed on the ratio of gin to vermouth. And several recipes printed in the early-to-mid 20th century even call for equal parts gin and dry vermouth.

Suffice it to say, this uncertainty has created a legion of devotees. While you’re apt to get riffs on an ancient, ambiguous recipe, these days, you’ll most likely be served a fairly even amount of sweet vermouth and gin, a splash of maraschino liqueur or Curaçao, and a dash or two of bitters. You’ll be drinking a piece of history that boasts an unbeatably complex, balanced taste—no matter how you mix it.

 

INGREDIENTS (Original Recipe):

  • 30ml Old Tom Gin
  • 30ml Sweet Vermouth
  • 2 dashes of Angostura biters
  • 2 dashes of Curaçao
  • Glass: coupe

 

INGREDIENTS (Modern Recipe):

  • 2 ounces gin
  • 3/4 ounce sweet vermouth
  • 1/4 ounce maraschino liqueur
  • Dash of Angostura bitters
  • Lemon twist for garnish
  • Glass: coupe

 

Negroni

While the Negroni’s true origins are unknown, we like to go with the legend of Count Camillo Negroni, circa 1919. As the story goes, the count invented it when he asked Fosco Scarselli, bartender at Caffè Casoni in Florence, Italy, to strengthen his favorite drink, the Americano, by replacing soda with gin. While the story’s legitimacy is hotly contested, drink historian David Wondrich has confirmed the existence of Camillo Negroni; and while his status as royalty is certainly questionable, his grandfather was, indeed, a count.

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The Negroni at Bar Fausto | Photo: Nicole Duda

As with most lore, at the end of the day, the Negroni’s true origins are nothing more than cocktail conversation. But as an actual libation, it’s one hell of a conversation starter. Slightly bitter and slightly sweet, the drink consists of equal parts Campari, sweet vermouth, and gin. Deceptively easy to perfect, yet always of a dashing, deep-red hue, the Negroni is a drink that’s truly worth of royalty status.

 

INGREDIENTS:

  • 1 oz gin
  • 1 oz Campari
  • 1 oz sweet red vermouth
  • Glass: old fashioned